I had "accidents" until I was around 14 or so. It was not because I was to lazy to go to the bathroom, or even that I did not know I had to go but because I just didn't care. This mind set quickly carried over int other aspects of my life such as school work. All through elementary school I did not do any homework, and would just pick random answers on tests (sometimes just to make a pattern...) even if I knew the right answer. The whole time I was doing this never was I held back a grade, I think that is because the teachers either did not know how to deal with me or simply did not want to deal with me.
When anyone would ask me why I did or didn't do these things I had one of two stock answers. My first one was more for why I didn't do something
I don't know
The second was for more why I did something, I would shrug my sholders while avoiding eye contact possibly staring at the ground and most of the time in tears.
Even though I was giving these answers I knew why I did/didn't do these things, but was to embarrassed to say. I was worried that if I told anyone the truth my life would get worse. That I would end up in a mental hospital drugged out of my mind in a zombie like state. You may wonder where I got an idea like that, well it was from the woman who was working with me in school. she said
If you keep acting like this you will end up locked in a hospital and so drugged up you may not even know who or where you are.
Maybe that is why I avoided treatment till I was in my 20's. However this thread is not about could haves, would haves, and should haves it is about what happened.